Monday, July 30, 2007

Our Appointment Day Arrives

















[Robin]

We were picked up this a.m. by K in car with another family who came from Canada. We sat in a courtyard outside the SDA with them while K spoke with the officials from the adoption department. It was a little surreal.....we hoped that K could come in with us, but the other couple was probably hoping the same thing. Turns out that he put them with a colleague who could translate in French, so K went with us. A very pretty young woman came out and escorted us upstairs to a small office with an older woman waiting behind a desk. We introduced ourselves and sat down. The young woman (whose name neither of us could remember after the appointment--too stressed, I guess) turned out to be our interpreter. The adoption official started off asking what gender and age were were hoping to adopt. Once we answered she began to tell us that there weren't any girls that were available in our age range--maybe we could come back in a few months. If we wanted another appointment, we were behind 20 other couples. Needless to say, the first 10 minutes of the "discussion" were excrutiating. K stepped into the discourse and started asking questions about other options. The older woman began to flip through a big three-ring binder filled with pages covered with plastic and started to describe various children that were available. We went back and forth asking questions about each of the children. We settled in with a discussion about a girl who just last month turned four. She had been born prematurely and has had some problems with her joints and has had surgery to correct them. The older woman called the orphange and asked some questions for us. We felt reassured by what we heard and decided to ask to see her. The orphanage director described her as smart and well-liked by the other children. She also apparently likes to sing.



[Phil]

Robin's getting verklempt, so I'm taking over now. Anyway, we decided that we would like to accept a referral to see her, so K rushed it through this afternoon, and we'll actually be traveling to the orphanage on Wednesday to meet the child. The city is 2 hours from Kyiv, so it may just be a day trip, unless we decide to stay for an extra day or two. In any case, we'll be moving apartments in Kyiv either way after Wednesday, which I'm sort of bittersweet about. Bathroom flood and tiny sleeping loft notwithstanding, I've come to love our little place and its tiny, ancient elevator.



[Robin]

Okay, I've recovered. After our appointment we walked back to our apartment and tried to assess the impact of this decision. We are both feeling hopeful. We spent the rest of the morning braving washing clothes (worked!), reading (finished Harry Potter #7--it was terrific), and had lunch in our apartment. We then ventured out to go back by the SDA to take a picture and then headed down the hill to a section of town called Podil. We searched for the Chernobyl museum only to find it and discover that it was closed for a "sanitary day." It was a pretty hot walk and we couldn't believe it was closed. Doh! We spelled relief with a beer at an outdoor cafe. When we walked back we headed in the direction of a park and took the Funicular up the hill. The Funicular is a hillside train that has a terrific view of the Dnepr River and goes through a park behind St. Mikhail's cathedral. We are now sitting in a restaurant near the cathedral eating borsch (again, but another version, this time with something like kale as the base) and trying the dim sum of the area--vareniki. The dumplings were wonderful, filled with cabbage and accompanied by spices and vinegar (I know that sounds weird, but trust me, it was yummy).



[Phil]

By the way, the reason we're having borsch yet again is that this borsch restaurant has free wi-fi, so we'll probably be having borsch every night that we're in Kyiv.


Onto the more mundane: above are some photos from yesterday. I'll let Robin tell you about them:


[Robin]

The first one is a view from the Hyatt Hotel's Bar 8, which is on the 8th floor. The hotel is practically brand-new, and its modern glass front is an anomoly for this city. We walked by and saw the opportunity for a vantage point for good pictures from their rooftop restaurant and couldn't resist going in. It was sunset and it was beautiful to look over St. Sophia's cathedral (the oldest church in Kyiv).


The second one is a picture of us at Bar 8 taken by the maitre'd. Since they had just recently opened, the staff was amazingly solicitious, to the extent that they actually brought blankets out to other patrons when the breeze kicked up. They also had a phenomenal bathroom (#8.5 on the Wiegerink scale--very similar to the museum in Oaxaca!).


The third picture is of St. Mikhail's monestary. It was destroyed by Stalin in 1937 and was completely rebuilt in 2001 (frescoes and everything). It was Carolina blue and striking to see in the sunshine.


The fourth picture is of the bulk frozen food section of the Megamart--the largest supermarket in Kyiv (see earlier post). K explained that we don't have this in the States because it probably costs too much to employ someone to weigh your frozen goods. It was marvelous to behold--all the varieties of frozen goods to scoop out and take home in individual bags.


[Phil]

That's all for now. Tomorrow we're going to try to visit the monastery caves and the enormous "Rodyna Mat" (Motherland) statue. And maybe we'll have some more borsch....

Sunday, July 29, 2007

We're Here




















We arrived in Kyiv with a sigh of relief. Our flights were relatively uneventful and we arrived at the appointed time to meet our translator/guide (Konstantin) at a flower stand outside of the customs area. After navigating the incredibly packed airport parking lot, he took us to the downtown area and dropped us off at our apartment. We are living on a side street, about three blocks west of the main street. Our apartment is small, but comfortable with working a/c, hot water and a washing machine. We also apparently live in a "tourist" destination as the apartment has the smallest working elevator in the Eastern Block (according to Konstantin -- see photo above). It only fit two bags and our guide; Phil and I had to take the stairs when we arrived. It is about the size of a double sleeping bag and you can barely turn sideways in it.

We spent the first afternoon trying to make up for not getting much sleep on the flight. That evening I went shopping with K and his wife for groceries. We need not have worried about having access to soap, etc.... this place was stocked with inexpensive and sophisticated food and household items--a Ukrainian version of Target. A couple differences include a whole aisle of vodka, mushroom flavored potato chips and a huge selection of "help-yourself" bins with scoops for frozen items from fish sticks to green beans. Yesterday we spent the day walking downtown and getting our money changed. They don't use banks--just currency shops. The exchange rate is approx. 1 US dollar to 5 UAH. It has been beautiful weather and the town is made for walking.
-Robin

[Phil writing now] One thing I should mention is how strange it is to be in a city where everyone is speaking this language that I translate every day, and yet it's the first time I've been in a Russian-speaking country. Therefore I'm constantly trying to talk Russian to waitresses, shop clerks, etc., and the first day they were all answering back in English or not answering at all. Things have improved, however, and I've had some nice chances to practice my Russian. In fact, the w-fi equipped restaurant we're in is great because the waitress speaks Russian to me and English to Robin. I think she knows I want to practice.

What else to tell... Oh yeah, we flooded our bathroom this morning because we have an ancient washing machine that you have to place the drain pipe in the toilet. No, really. We didn't know this, so we set the cycle to run, went out and got a latte, and came home to find 2 inches of water in the bathroom. It took us an hour to clean up. What a disaster.

The city is beautiful, the weather is warm but not too humid, and the people are almost uniformally attractive (at least the women are). Around the tourist areas the service people are aloof, but as you move even a few blocks from the main drag they become much more friendly.

Okay, I'll let Robin write a bit more before sign off:

[Robin]
Some of the pictures we will post include Phil showing how small our loft bedroom is (he has to crouch to get into the room); children taking pony rides through a beautiful park near our apartment (Park Shevchenka); and the funny Ukranian "hut" restaurant we ate at last night. It looked like something out of Hansel and Gretel (minus the witch). We are making our way here and I think it will get easier everyday. Today we bought a skillet (laugh while you can, but I swear I wish I hadn't pulled that out of my bag to save space), a knife and a bottle opener to increase our ability to live comfortably in our apartment. Phil's Russian is definitely coming in handy and I was so proud to see him ordering our dinner last night and my latte this morning. The woman at the coffee shop actually asked him if he had his "discount card" --not a word he knew, btw, but I think a nice acknowledgement for his ability to fit in here.

We have our appointment tomorrow at 10 a.m. Wish us luck!

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

One More Night






We have one more night to go. Our flight schedule is:

Delta 5563 RDU to JFK Arr 3:35 PM
Delta 8601 JFK to Paris Arr 6:00 AM
Delta 8518 Paris to Kyiv Arr 11:20 AM


Robin is frantically packing, and I should do the same, so I'll sign off for now. The three photos above are of the room we call "Caroline's Room" for now...

-Phil

Saturday, July 21, 2007

Anticipated Adoption Process



This is the process as we understand it:

  • We will arrive in Kyiv (the official translation for Kiev was officially changed to Kyiv) on July 27. We will be met by our agency’s facilitator Konstantin. He will get us settled into our apartment (he selected a location close to the adoption office, downtown).
  • Our appointment at the SDA (State Department of Adoption and Protection of Children's Rights of Ministry of Ukraine of Family, Youth and Sports) is on July 30th
  • During our appointment, we will be shown files of children available for international adoption. They could show us anywhere from 4-10 files...depending on whatever criteria they use to pull the files and the number of available children.
  • We hope to choose a child to visit from these files. The files include medical history, family information if known, and any other pertinent information that is known to the SDA.
  • After making a decision, we will wait for the SDA Director to sign a permission letter for us to travel to the region to visit the child. This typically takes anywhere from 1-5 days.
  • We will then travel to the region via train, plane or automobile...depending on where the region is located. Ukraine is roughly the size of Texas so we could end up traveling to a region 12 hours away.
  • When we arrive in the region we will have to get permission to visit the child from the local head of children's services.
  • After we secure the permission, we will visit the orphanage. We will meet with the Director of the orphanage and/or the orphanage physician. They will give us a more detailed description of health and history.
  • We will then meet the child. It may be in a group setting or one-on-one.
  • We will make the decision to adopt or not to adopt. If we choose not to adopt this child, we would then travel back to Kyiv and await another appointment (5-14 days) and start all over again.
  • If we decide to adopt, then a whirlwind of paperwork ensues and a court date is scheduled, usually within 2 weeks. During the wait for court, we will be allowed to visit our chosen child daily.
  • When we finally go to court, the child will be declared legally ours., however, there is a mandatory 10 day wait period. This period cannot be waived so we will continue to stay in the area and with our daily visits to the orphange.
  • After the 10 day wait, we will be issued the court decree. We can then obtain a passport and an amended birth certificate listing us as parents. This can sometimes take 2-3 days.
  • Once we have all the documents in hand, we can travel back to Kyiv.
  • In Kyiv, we have to get our child a physical at a clinic to obtain a US visa.
  • We will then have an appointment at the US Embassy to obtain a visa for our new child to enter the US.
  • We are then free to travel home...back to Lola and our families.

Wednesday, July 18, 2007